One summer a long time ago, the seven sacred council fires of the Lakota Sioux came together and camped. The sun was strong, and the people were starving, for there was no game. Two young men went out to hunt.
Along the way, the two men met a beautiful, young woman dressed in white; she floated as she walked. One man had bad desires for the woman and tried to touch her. But, as he did this, the man was consumed by a huge cloud and turned into a pile of bones.
The woman spoke to the second young man and told him, “Return to your people, and tell them I am coming.”
This holy wakan, woman, brought a wrapped bundle to the people. She unwrapped the bundle, giving the people a sacred pipe and teaching them how to use it for prayer. “With this holy pipe, you will walk like a living prayer,” she said. She taught the people of the plains their sacred ceremonies.
The woman told the Lakota about the value of the buffalo, the women, and the children.
“You are from Mother Earth,” she told the women. “What you are doing is as great as what the warriors do.”
Before she left, she told the people she would return. As she walked away, she rolled over four times. Then, she turned into a white female buffalo calf. Hence, she is known as the White Buffalo Woman or White Buffalo Calf Woman.
Mothers connect us all to the sacred.
The Native American way of life understands the whole world as sacred. Family, tiyospaye, is sacred, the earth is sacred, and all of life has meaning in the interconnected, cangleska wakan, the sacred hoop.
In this circle of unity, women are revered as beautiful and powerful because they are the givers of sacred life. They are grounded in Mother Earth and connected to Father Sky, bringing children into the world through the power of their life giving love.
Like Mother Earth, who provides everything we need to live and to thrive, the woman is able to give everything a human child needs. She nourishes, she loves, and she protects.
Without women there is no hope, no future, no carrying on of tradition and culture. This is why Native American cultures have always honored and respected women, elevating them to positions of reverence and honor in the tribe. Mothers and grandmothers raise the children, teaching them how to live life honorably, with respect for elders and for tradition.
The Force of a Mother’s Love
Many challenges face Native women and Native mothers today. Cycles of addiction, disrupted families, lack of educational opportunities, unemployment, abuse and trauma, lack of proper medical care. Native women face these challenges on a daily basis.
But many women are persevering. These Native American mothers are examples of faith, perseverance, and life-giving love. Read their full stories for inspiration and hope.
Yvonne “Tiny” DeCory, an Oglala Lakota, a mother and grandmother to many, devotes her life to suicide prevention on Pine Ridge Reservation: “my everyday is keeping kids alive…I tell them, ‘Your struggle is real, but we can deal with it.’” Her program—Be Excited About Reading (BEAR)—draws together children of all ages to support each other and to have fun with skits, music, and reading encouragement. Her strong, motherly love has saved and shaped the lives of many Native youth.
Jaime, a Hunkpapa Lakota, has her own story of struggle with drug abuse. But her love for her children gave her the strength and motivation she needed to make changes in her life. “I always struggled with how my mother lost her kids due to her addiction, and here I was losing mine for the same reason. Wanting to keep my kids was my main motivation to get sober…I finally became the mother I always knew I could be, and I broke the cycle.” Now Jaime works as a substance abuse counselor in Indian country, helping others break their cycles.
Brandi after a struggle with addiction, one by one, she regained custody of her children. Brandi shared, “My daughter was 4 when I left. When I finally had her ‘home’ again, she said, ‘Mommy, I couldn’t remember your face. It is so beautiful.” The love of her children and new husband motivates her; she works daily and diligently to live a life with a clear mind and an open heart. Now, Brandi runs a support group in Sisseton and opens the door to everyone: using addicts, recovering addicts, children, extended family, and friends. No one is turned away. They share a meal. They share their stories. They share encouragement. They share acceptance. They share hope.
The force of motherly love inspires strong Native women to conquer their own struggles for the sake of their children. Strong grandmothers and mothers care for and love more children than just their own. They nurture young people in youth centers, in schools, in broken homes, in their larger community because of their love and in their reverence for life’s beauty and sacredness.
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